Beginning a new relationship can be a lot less challenging if a man learn to pick up the signs women give off when they are not interested. Sometimes a woman’s lack of interest is obvious to everyone else BUT him! You see, when a woman really isn’t into the man, she will say it in the best way she can, subtly. Most women are raised to be polite and not hurt people’s feelings and due to this, much of what they are say is put across through non-verbal means. Men don’t always understand subtlety or body language however, which means women “speak” in a manner that the unaware man won’t get it. In this post, I compiled a list of a mix of my personal experience as well as what I picked out from the web articles on this topic which applied to what I’ve gone through.
- She replied “Thanks for your concern…”
She once showed you her concerned when you were under the weather. You thought there was something special to that gesture and reciprocated by showing a little affection towards her too. You text her to ask her how she’s feeling one fine morning. Yes, she replied and thanked you but no, getting that kind of reply means she is not having feeling as what you thought towards you. Simply put, she is deflecting your affection. You’re definitely not getting anywhere with this girl!
- She says she has no special feeling for you.
After a few dates, she said to you she don’t feel the spark, the chemistry when she is with you. There’s no special feeling towards you. These kind of statements that are hard to rebut. She has decided and whatever a sweet words or promises the man said then e.g. I will wait for your heart to open up for me, etc, will not make her change her mind. She asked you to go see other girls. This is no more a hint. It’s clear she is not interested.
- She discuss about another guy with you.
She tells stories or shares details about one specific guy. Like how he figured her favourite ice cream flavour, how he tried to keep her dry when they walked in the drizzle last saturday, etc. If she is in a long distance relationship, she would briefly mention what they discussed over the phone last night. She asked you for a guys opinion on something and its because she wants to know why that guy behaved that way. Or whatever you discussed with her may lead her to talk about him. You don’t need a brighter neon sign. She’s telling you that she’s interested in someone who isn’t you.
- She wants you to hook you up with another woman.
Instead of being your love interest, she took on a new role, your matchmaker. She asked if you are free to meet up one day. You met her and saw that she is not alone. She introduce you to her close friend or cousin. She’s being nice to you. Instead of rejecting you, she wants you to divert your attention and affection to someone else.
- She only talks to you when she needs something
She’s probably using you. Even worse if she’s nice to you because she wants to loan money from you. Better to move on and find someone who likes you and not your favour.
- She insists on going Dutch.
Or after you settled the bill, she gave you her portion. This is a clear signal that she doesn’t want you to feel had or used financially in any way now that she has discovered that you are not her cup of tea. She will seek to block any ideas of ownership you may have, and to curtail development of any emotional connection. Establishing boundaries with regards to male “caretaking” behaviors is mandatory in such situations.
- She’s argumentative, disagreeing with you about everything.
She may start arguments over the most trivial of things and possibly placing blame on you when it isn’t justified.
- She Takes Forever to Respond or Never Responds To You
She hasn’t responded to your text. Or the nine texts before that. If you text or WhatsApp a girl and she didn’t reply, give the benefit of the doubt. She could be tied up at the moment. Or perhaps she’s purposely delay her reply so that she don’t look needy of your attention but if you get a reply a day or 2 later, then she really is busy…busy hoping that you’ll take the hint, that is.
- She doesn’t want you around.
Every time you freely offered to accompany her when she says she is going to run errands in town, she declined. Dude, if she is interested in you, she would definitely want you to follow her around.
Use all your senses (including your 6th) and pay attention to the messages she is sending, both verbal and non-verbal. It can be tricky though. The subtleties sometimes makes girls hard to read. Is she playing hard to get? Or she genuinely wants nothing to do with you? One way you can do to help you decide is to weigh the things she does to show you she’s interested against the things she does that imply she’s not. If the latter outweighs the former, the chances developing a relationship is considered non-existent. Dude, take a hint and leave a girl alone. There are plenty of girls who will be interested in you – most likely anyway. Time is a limited resource. Don’t waste your precious time on someone who is not meant for you.