It is really a tricky situation. You believe you are just unlucky when it comes to love. That’s the reason why your Ms. Perfect has yet to appear in your life. Conversely, you have concluded that Ms. Perfect is not real. She only exists on movie screens. Whichever your preconception is, you are totally right. Ms Perfect doesn’t exist anywhere except in 2 places; your imagination and on movie screens.
There’s a few reason why you are still waiting for Ms. Perfect. No, bad luck is not one of them. Instead, it has more to do with the fact that you are busy waiting for someone that actually doesn’t exist! Secondly, you haven’t meet your perfect partner because you aren’t looking for the thing that will make them perfect for you. Yes…you are going on dates but you are so caught up in this whole exercise of dating that you forget to look for the qualities you seek! It is just simply not enough to go out there haphazardly without a game plan of some sort.
It is really important to understand who you are and what you need. None of the ladies you have gone out with have what you are looking for. If you facing this dilemma, stop and ask yourself these questions.
- What exactly do you want out of your ideal lady?
- What are the qualities that you feel are necessary in her?
- What are the attributes you are willing to make a compromise on?
Once you have the answers, you will know exactly what will make her perfect for you.
When you go for your dates now, remember these 2 things. Firstly, however hard you try to impress your date, you cannot control her opinion of you. Instead, it’s far better to concentrate on your needs and desires, and evaluate how much of what you need would be fulfilled if you dated this woman.
Next, remind yourself that nobody on this earth is perfect. You’ve probably figured out that you have flaws. And she will too. Some are flaws you can overlook while some are obvious that you couldn’t overlook on your best day even if she was the most beautiful, most sexy woman on the planet. Reevaluate your outlook on your ideal girl. Accept that she won’t be perfect.
I’ll sum up with a memorable quote from the movie Good Will Hunting. Sean (Robin William) said to Will (Matt Damon) this: “You’re not perfect, sport, and let me save you the suspense: this girl you’ve met, she’s not perfect either. But the question is whether or not you’re perfect for each other.” That’s a wise advise.
